As I remember ZFS did recently just add the ability to grow an array, but it’s not seamless and wastes space because of some limitations with it. You also need to learn the CLI procedures to do it without breaking something, vs just clicking a button on a webUI.
ZFS also recently had a major data loss bug so I’m not sure safer is accurate.
I do use ZFS on my servers, I’m not actually an unraid user myself. But managing ZFS is not easy and takes a lot of time to learn.
The easiest I’ve ever used is https://localsend.org/
Very simple, just open it on both computers, select the file and click the other computer.