I absolutely disagree about all fediverse devs being problematic. @ernest is the dev of KBin, and everything I’ve seen of or about him shows he’s a good person and a gem.
Also, there’s a vast difference between being a bit of an asshole sometimes, depending on your point of view (like Linus Torvalds), and trying to justify genocide (lemmy devs).
I just blocked the entire instance. Does that not work in lemmy?
For a long time I (and people around me) just believed I must have become a lazy person and that I just needed to get over myself. The idea that I might be ill didn’t even come up. When I struggled to write my bachelor’s thesis I did visit an insurance-approved psychologist, but all that guy did was trying to find ways I could motivate myself, with no attempt to find out what was causing me to struggle in the first place rather than just reinforce my perception that I must just be lazy. After a couple of months I stopped going because all those visits did was making me feel worse. Also, because I chose to go to a psychologist directly rather than being delegated there by a doctor/psychiatrist, insurance only covered half of the cost, so it was a waste of money as well.
Really the first idea that it might be a mental illness rather than a personality flaw and being a general failure of a person didn’t come up at all until I read a book in which I saw a lot of myself in the protagonist’s mother who was said in the book to have depression. That same week I had my second bout of suicidal ideation, which drove me to get help asap.
Definitely not ADHD in my case. My depression came from family history and having internalised harmfully high expectations.
Edit: Oh and likely genetics that produce less serotonin than would be ideal.
Edit2: Also, it developed way too gradually to be a burnout.
You’re right on all counts. With the help of therapy and medicine I was able to reach a state where I was able to start an apprenticeship as an automation specialist in a regular firm without any concessions that would need to be noted on the certificate of proficiency (just a bit more leniency for sick days (unpaid)). Just a few weeks ago I received my federal certificate for this profession and I’m now starting to look for jobs (luckily, the market is starved for automation specialists).
But as you guessed, it’s still an ongoing process. For the duration of the apprenticeship I had to work 100% and as a consequence was sick a lot (part my body complaining about being overworked, part not always having the willpower to power through). I’m planning to only work a maximum of 80% in future, maybe just 70%.
Some days are still very difficult. Just last week I shut down completely for two days because of the combination of needing to prepare my work project for handover, looking for a new workplace (my current one only deals with apprenticeships, it’s kind of like a school in that regard) and being hounded at home about deep cleaning my room and parts of the house in preparation for moving out (was living with several other people for the duration of the apprenticeship and will move out next month) all at once.
I’m very grateful to the state (canton) I’m living in for all the help I received without counting it as debt against me (unless I suddenly win the lottery jackpot, inherit a fortune from an unexpected benefactor, or start earning disgusting amounts of money). Because of that, I’m hoping I can find work in this state so that my taxes may help in continuing these policies for other people rather than benefit an unrelated state.
I’ll add my perspective as a male recovering from depression:
The best ways to have discovered my depression earlier would have been to
Because this wasn’t caught, I spent years with undiagnosed depression. Years in which unhealthy coping mechanisms had time to entrench themselves. It was only caught because suicidal thoughts scared me so much that I sought help when they appeared a second time.
I also wonder how much of an influence it has if you know the results of an IQ test done on you for a mental health diagnosis.
Would such an assessment coincide with this test enough that it wouldn’t count you as falsely guessing your intelligence?
Also, last I heard (about 10 days ago, things might have changed since then) kbin’s API doesn’t quite exist yet. It’s one of the reasons the Artemis App’s source code isn’t open yet; hariette plans to make it open source once she can switch from scraping the website to an actual API and scrub the scraping from the code base.
Technically I do, but they’re in css, vanilla javascript and rusty PHP4/PHP5. Programming was and mostly is a hobby for me.
Well except for Siemens SCL/FDB, I need to know that for work, but that’s for industrial control circuits and quite a different beast.
Just my first uninformed guess at how long you might take 😉
I managed to get my immediate family (and my sister’s husband) onto Threema, the extended family is on Whatsapp with zero chance of switching away.
On the other hand, one cousin’s husband can’t stop spamming the group chat with pics of their daughters. Not just “special event, here’s a pic of each at their best” or whatever, but multiple. fotos. daily., sometimes videos too… As a consequence, I’ve permanently muted that whatsapp group and only occasionally take a peek at it.
Sorry for the reply spam, first time I tried using the remindme bot
@remindme in 4 weeks
@remindme in 4 weeks
Can you add kbin.social, fedia.io and kglitch.social to the list of home instances? You’d just have to replace the /c/ in links to communities with /m/. This community is at https://kglitch.social/m/fediverse@lemmy.world for me, for example.
I imagine making kbin instances searchable with your tool would require quite a bit more work.
Good luck trying to stay federated with everyone. Including tankies, nazis, trolls, pedos, …
lemmygrad.ml and lemmy.ml are run by them, the former is explictly a tankie haven. While lemmy.ml is supposed to be a general lemmy instance, the admins (which are the same as lemmygrad’s) have spoken in favor of genocide and removed posts on lemmy.ml that are critical of the CCP, especially in regards to the treatment of the Uyghurs.
Most instances have defederated lemmygrad, some have defederated lemmy.ml as well.