Software developer by day, insomniac by night.

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  • I don’t view transphobia as discourse, it’s just hate speech and doesn’t belong being platformed anywhere. It’s fantastic that you have the will and drive to engage in political discourse and activism as much as you do, I really rather envy that, but not everyone has that energy. For me personally, I need to decouple myself from the constant flow of hate that’s so easy to end up in when you go down those paths of political discourse, because all it does for me is drain me and ruin my day.

    Now that’s not me letting people run rampant with whatever hateful discourse they have, that’s me closing the door on the world for the day and engaging in some self-care. Perhaps I’m projecting, but that’s how I read Abigail as well.


  • They’ve linked the thread.

    The alleged transphobe would be Abigail Watson, and I assume our OP is “PM_ME_FAT_ENBIES.”

    I honestly don’t really see the transphobia, which feels a bit shaky for me to say given that I’m cis, but it looks more like OP went ham on a person saying that they prefer to spend their social media time scrolling cat pictures, sewing, and fanart, or well things like it.

    Ada’s responses to me seem very well grounded. This in particular stands out.

    And what I’m saying is that this sort of talk of the semantics of queer discourse needs to be opt in for your peers, because not everyone has the spoons to deal with that discussion. Some people are explicitly trying to get away from it.

    Honestly, I kind of feel for Abigail. I personally have a pretty low tolerance for news, political or otherwise. They’re always presented in a sensationalist manner, and often just outright horrible. I just don’t have the energy to spend on things that ultimately make me feel miserable, so I try to shut it out.


  • I think it might be some kind of expectation that since it’s a dialogue on a computer it’s automatically going to be something complex and technical.

    A couple of years back the company I worked for developed a website for this other company. Our point of contact had previously worked with us at a previous company, so he knew people at our company already. He had the designer’s phone number (mistake) and would frequently just call her the moment he hit send on an email. “Hey did you see my email???”

    He absolutely refused to learn how computers worked, at all, which was odd given his role was lead for digital marketing. One stand-out moment was when he emailed us “URGENT FIX NOW!!! WEBSITE BROKEN!” The designer and I both freaked out for a second, until we checked the site and everything seemed to be working correctly. We then asked him what exactly was wrong with it, and he sent a photo of his laptop screen. In the system tray, the internet icon was crossed out.

    Dude had a laptop with one of those physical wifi switches. He’d switched it off, tried to access the website. Then gone on his phone to email us that it wasn’t working. The error message was along the lines of “You don’t have an internet connection.”

    I no longer have contact with clients, and it’s a blessing.


  • Ugh, that all sounds really familiar to me too. Boggles the mind that people can’t plug things in, it’s just a case of finding what cord goes from where, and which port it fits in. It’s really difficult to get it wrong. I think the thing I hated the most was being called over to literally read a dialogue. “I was working on my document and this popped up!!”

    Do you want to save your document? (Yes/No)

    Like please, just read what it says instead of freaking out every time something pops up!