I think some others here are missing the point of the question. Right now people are arguing about the fosstodon mods policy that all posts there must be in English. People are coming at it from every angle you can imagine, and maybe some you can’t. It’s amazing! Here on Lemmy we had our own little drama with behaw (de)federation a while ago. (How did that play out? I didn’t pay close attention.)

I think OP is asking how to convey that drama of fedi culture. Not (necessarily) the technical aspects.